THE 10 GAYEST Cities In America For 2020

We used the most recent census data to determine the cities with the largest number of gay households in America.

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Editor’s Note: We updated this article for 2020. This is our fourth time ranking the gayest cities in America.

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When the Supreme Court recently ruled in favor of same-sex marriages, America generally, and the gay community specifically, celebrated. Same-sex marriages, and the gay and lesbian movement is more mainstream than ever.

While the national discussion has been brought to the forefront, at the state level, conversations continue.

Our goal with this post is to use data and science to determine the gayest cities in America.

After analyzing 72 of the largest cities in America, we’ve determined these cities have the largest gay population as a percentage.

Well yea, we could have told you San Francisco was gay. But, what’s more interesting to us, is that only ~2% of households are actually gay. That’s according to official census numbers at least.

Having been to SF before, we would hazard to guess that maybe that number is underreported. But we only tell ’em like we see ’em.

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The 10 Gayest Cities In America For 2020

San Francisco, CA

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Households: 359,673.0
Gay Households: 5,299
% Gay Households: 2.33%
More on San Francisco: PhotosData

It’s probably no surprise that San Francisco ranks as the gayest city in America. Here, 0.02% of residents are gay, and about 1 and a half percent of the total population is in same-sex marriages. San Francisco is a non-descrimination haven. Equality and fairness rule the day here. San Francisco first became a major gay destination during WWII when the Navy discharged gay sailors who were being expelled from the service at Treasure Island. Many decided to stay.

Of course, we mentioned the Castro District earlier. This area of downtown San Francisco is a safe place for anyone – the entire neighborhood has hotels, bars and restaurants that cater to the gay lifestyle. The Castro is a symbol of liberation for the whole world, where the gay community is not only welcomed, but justified.

A lot of this entire region boasts a large gay population. Across the bay, Oakland, Berkeley, and Hayward all also have a large gay community. Hence, a lot of people refer to it as the Gay Area. San Francisco proper isn’t just the gay capital of the US, it’s the gay capital of the world.

Review Of San Francisco by HomeSnacks User

I felt happy to stay San Francisco, Good surroundings,people like to enjoy and helpful to us

I like to go golden bridge, Coit tower

Atlanta, GA

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Households: 199,478.0
Gay Households: 2,377
% Gay Households: 1.69%
More on Atlanta: PhotosData

Review Of Atlanta by HomeSnacks User

Crime in downtown is really bad. Do not go there at night alone or at all really

traffic is terrible all across the city

St. Petersburg, FL

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Households: 107,173.0
Gay Households: 1,379
% Gay Households: 1.3%
More on St. Petersburg: PhotosData

Orlando, FL

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Households: 111,674.0
Gay Households: 961
% Gay Households: 1.3%
More on Orlando: PhotosData

Review Of Orlando by HomeSnacks User

Many parks and activities around town. You can go to Universal, Sea World or Disney World

There are many hotels and entertainment options. Disney World is my favorite park in the area. The overall theming and ability to stay in the zone with Disney transportation is the best.

Seattle, WA

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Households: 323,446.0
Gay Households: 3,169
% Gay Households: 1.23%
More on Seattle: PhotosData

Seattle Washington is unsurprisingly one of the gayest cities in the nation. Here, the gay population is 0.01% and also growing. Seattle passed San Francisco for the most households composed of gay or lesbian couples at 2.6% – and is the only U.S. city with more than 1% of households being lesbian couples.

Seattle has two annual Pride festivals. The city is also home to the two largest LGBTQ choruses in the world, the Seattle Men’s Chorus and Seattle Women’s Chorus. The city of Seattle has protected gay and lesbian workers since the passage of the Fair Employment Practice Ordinance in 1973. Seattle’s hospitals have been recognized for their dedication to equality for LGBT patients as well.

Review Of Seattle by HomeSnacks User

Seattle is definitely an expensive city and one that you need a good job to live in adequately. The school system was good according to my friends who were parents. The biggest problem is the lack of affordable housing. The city does have a vibrant liberal culture that makes it stand apart from the Trumpian hellscape to the East in flyover country.

My favorite place in Seattle is Club Sapphire. This is a s*x-positive club with membership dues for individuals and couples to “play” in a private setting. Sapphire’s membership dues kept out some of the scammers and other disreputable types that sometimes infiltrate the scene. This s*x club really does stand out compared to other major metropolitan s*x clubs such as NYC’s. Sapphire managed to imbibe the city’s liberal atmosphere and apply it to sexuality making it a distinctive Seattle experience that was far more memorable than the Space Needle.

Denver, CO

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Households: 294,358.0
Gay Households: 2,667
% Gay Households: 1.23%
More on Denver: PhotosData

Denver Colorado ranks as the 6th gayest city in America, where an estimated 0.01% of the population identifies as LGBT. Of course, since, like forever ago, Colorado was a very red leaning state, but over the last two decades, it has become much more liberal. The most liberal of of Colorado’s cities is Denver, which also hosts the third largest gay pride parade in the nation.

You’d expect that America’s acceptance of LGBTQ individuals would be growing, and up until recently, that was the case. However, a new alarming study by the LGBTQ Advocacy Group GLAAD has raised some worrisome eyebrows. In 2016, 63% of youth were comfortable interacting with the gay population. A year later, that number was 53% and now, it’s less than half. The only age group that has a growing acceptance of the gay community are the elderly.

In that same vein, it does appear that Americans are more politically correct when it comes to gender acceptance, though, at least publicly. For example, a cafe recently began promoting their Gender neutral gingerbread people. Fox News made a joke of it. No surprise.

Review Of Denver by HomeSnacks User

Denver is the s**t. I came out here to visit in 2014. I thought it was going to be just alright, and ended up falling in love with the city. The people are friendly, the sky is blue, there are beautiful mountians, and so much good weed. I ended up leaving the NYC area and moved out here in 2016. Best decision ever!

Great food everywhere! A lot of resturants provide local and sustainable meats and produce.

Oakland, CA

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Households: 161,483.0
Gay Households: 1,909
% Gay Households: 1.2%
More on Oakland: PhotosData

Review Of Oakland by HomeSnacks User

To everybody thinking about moving to Oakland : It’s dreadful, horrible chaos. Please just stay where you are.

Actually, Oakland s a wonderful place to live. We just don’t need any more people here. Really.

Bad: weather. Bad: diverse, fun population. You’ve been warned. Lol

Minneapolis, MN

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Households: 173,916.0
Gay Households: 1,715
% Gay Households: 1.1%
More on Minneapolis: PhotosData

Review Of Minneapolis by HomeSnacks User

I used to love to visit Minneapolis/St. Paul. The city was clean and well-lit, the people were friendly and willing to help, and I did not feel uneasy while walking about the city.

Recently, an influx of Somalian ‘refugees’ flooded into the city/metroplex. These ‘refugees’ have destroyed many areas of the once beautiful city; turning them into slums and crime ridden areas. These people also cause civil disturbance and make visitors feel uncomfortable and add a sense of danger while visiting.

Portland, OR

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Households: 264,428.0
Gay Households: 2,857
% Gay Households: 1.06%
More on Portland: PhotosData

Of course, Portland ranks really high in the nation, that’s no surprise. More than 1 in 20 people in Portland is gay. For a long time, the city of Roses’ slogan was Keep Portland Weird. Now, more and more, you’re seeing Keep Portland Queer around town.

Portland elected its first gay mayor in 2008. An out bisexual Portlander is Oregon’s governor; an out Portland lesbian is the state’s Speaker of the House. Rainbow flags fly everywhere. But back in 1964, the city of Portland attempted to shut down local gay bars in an attempt to crush the gay scene.

It didn’t work.

Today, the Portland Pride Festival and parade draws people from all over the country. Now unlike Seattle, which has a gay district called Capital Hill, or San Francisco’s Castro district, Portland no longer has a gayborhood. Why? Dating apps have made hooking up at gay clubs less necessary for one. And, as one Portlander put it – why do we need a Gayborhood – here in Portland everyone’s kinda gay.

Overall, Oregon is one of the gayest states in the nation. Wyoming is the least gay state.

Review Of Portland by HomeSnacks User

Every time I visit Portland I am reminded of how much I love it. The atmosphere ia always vibrant and the people are so nice! There are so many things to do that you will never be bored.

Breweries on every corner. I love to go from brewery to brewery and taste all the different beers. Portland is the epitomy of melting pot. There are so many diverse groups and fron that comes a large market of ethnic foods. You can find any ethnic food you can think of.

Long Beach, CA

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Households: 166,460.0
Gay Households: 1,468
% Gay Households: 1.01%
More on Long Beach: PhotosData

Review Of Long Beach by HomeSnacks User

I moved to Long Beach to attend Cal State University Long Beach. Honestly, it changed my life. I grew up in a different suburb in California, but Long Beach is so different. I wouldn’t necessarily live here for my whole life, but it was definitely worth coming here for college. I like coming back and visiting here to see my friends.

My favorite thing about Long Beach is that there are honestly always places to go to, and it’s not too far to go to other fun cities like LA. It’s not too quiet but never too loud either unless you live somewhere that is filled with college students. The weather is great, too. And of course, we’re near a few beaches, so that’s great.

How we determined the gayest cities in America for 2020

In order to rank the gayest cities in America, we used the 2014-2018 American Community Survey from the U.S. Census. We looked at:

  • Percentage of all households that are unmarried, same-sex partners

We limited the analysis to non-CDPs that have over 100,000 households.

We ranked each city from 1 to 72 with the city containing the highest percentage of unmarried, same-sex partners households being the most gay.

In the end, San Francisco was the gayest city with ~2% gay households. You can download the data here.

Read on below to learn more about the gayest cities in America. Or skip to the end to see the list of all the places in the state from gayest to straighest.

There You Have It – The Gatest Cities In America

So, while we all knew San Francisco would be the gayest city in the country, we added to the list with cities like Atlanta and Portland.

And while the gayest cities are usually on the coasts, Minneapolis does make an appearance in the top ten.

And if you’re interested, here are the least gay cities:

  1. Detroit
  2. Virginia Beach
  3. Lincoln

For more reading, check out:

Detailed List Of The Gayest Cities In America For 2020

Rank City % Gay Households
1 San Francisco, CA 2.33%
2 Atlanta, GA 1.69%
3 St. Petersburg, FL 1.3%
4 Orlando, FL 1.3%
5 Seattle, WA 1.23%
6 Denver, CO 1.23%
7 Oakland, CA 1.2%
8 Minneapolis, MN 1.1%
9 Portland, OR 1.06%
10 Long Beach, CA 1.01%
11 Jersey City, NJ 1.01%
12 Arlington, VA 1.0%
13 Boston, MA 0.97%
14 Dallas, TX 0.92%
15 Tampa, FL 0.91%
16 Columbus, OH 0.89%
17 Austin, TX 0.89%
18 Chicago, IL 0.87%
19 New Orleans, LA 0.87%
20 San Diego, CA 0.86%
21 St. Louis, MO 0.81%
22 Phoenix, AZ 0.79%
23 Los Angeles, CA 0.79%
24 New York, NY 0.71%
25 Cleveland, OH 0.69%
26 Kansas City, MO 0.68%
27 Henderson, NV 0.68%
28 Charlotte, NC 0.64%
29 Pittsburgh, PA 0.63%
30 Cincinnati, OH 0.62%
31 Madison, WI 0.62%
32 Albuquerque, NM 0.6%
33 Indianapolis, IN 0.59%
34 Sacramento, CA 0.57%
35 Urban Honolulu, HI 0.55%
36 Raleigh, NC 0.53%
37 Houston, TX 0.52%
38 Miami, FL 0.51%
39 San Jose, CA 0.51%
40 Fresno, CA 0.49%
41 Tulsa, OK 0.48%
42 Aurora, CO 0.48%
43 Philadelphia, PA 0.48%
44 Memphis, TN 0.47%
45 Scottsdale, AZ 0.47%
46 Corpus Christi, TX 0.46%
47 Tucson, AZ 0.46%
48 San Antonio, TX 0.45%
49 Baltimore, MD 0.44%
50 Fort Wayne, IN 0.43%
51 Buffalo, NY 0.42%
52 St. Paul, MN 0.42%
53 Milwaukee, WI 0.42%
54 Las Vegas, NV 0.39%
55 Oklahoma City, OK 0.39%
56 Wichita, KS 0.36%
57 Durham, NC 0.36%
58 Mesa, AZ 0.35%
59 Omaha, NE 0.35%
60 Bakersfield, CA 0.35%
61 Toledo, OH 0.33%
62 Jacksonville, FL 0.32%
63 Fort Worth, TX 0.31%
64 Arlington, TX 0.31%
65 Greensboro, NC 0.29%
66 Plano, TX 0.27%
67 Anaheim, CA 0.25%
68 El Paso, TX 0.24%
69 Colorado Springs, CO 0.2%
70 Lincoln, NE 0.19%
71 Virginia Beach, VA 0.18%
72 Detroit, MI 0.16%