Gayest States In America

Here’s a look at the States in America with the most pride.

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Editor’s Note: We updated this article for 2019. This is our second time ranking the gayest states in America.

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We’ve previously taken a look at the Gayest Cities in America and, to no one’s surprise, San Francisco checked in as the gayest city.

What was surprising, to us at least, was the relatively low percentage of households that reported as gay in San Francisco — only ~2%.

Which got us thinking, if the gayest city in the country has a gay population that small, how small must the gay population be across America?

Turns out, pretty small according to the census — only 0.4% of households are male-male or female-female. But what states lead the pack when it comes to the gay population?

With that question in mind, here’s a look at the top ten Gayest States in America for 2019:

  1. Oregon (Photos)
  2. Maine (Photos)
  3. Hawaii (Photos)
  4. Arizona (Photos)
  5. Delaware (Photos)
  6. New Mexico (Photos)
  7. Colorado (Photos)
  8. Rhode Island (Photos)
  9. Nevada (Photos)
  10. California (Photos)

What in the what?

The bottom of the list is no surprise as a bunch of Midwestern states and the South populate the bottom half (At least people don’t report living in same sex households there, we’d imagine the % of the population that is gay is pretty consistent everywhere).

But what’s up with the top states? And why is California not number 1?

Follow along as we break it down the states with the largest same sex population or feel free to check out some of other research:

How We Calculated The Gayest States In America Per Capita For 2019

We’ve been ranking cities for over three years now and we always start our quests for data in the same manner — as stroll through the American Community Survey.

And, as we expected given that we’ve already written on the topic of gay places several time, we knew they wouldn’t disappoint.

This time we were directed to table B11009 from the 5yr ACS which reports on same sex unmarried households.

We looked at the following two criteria:

  • Unmarried-partner: Male householder and male partner
  • Unmarried-partner: Female householder and female partner

Next, we summed them up for each state and divided by the total number of households in the states. This gave us the number of gay households per capita.

Finally, we ranked each state from the highest percentage of gay households to the lowest.

The state with the most pride ended up being Maine.

The least gay state? Wyoming.

1. Oregon


Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 1,571,631
Percent Gay: 0.49%

The gayest state in the nation is… Oregon?


As one would expected, Portland is gay central in the Beaver State followed by the lesser known Talent.

.49% of households reported as same sex on last report.

2. Maine


Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 554,061
Percent Gay: 0.49%

Tracking just a tick behind Oregon in terms of gay population is Maine.

Well, it seems that smaller, coastal states generally have a higher percentage of gay households based on the data. And that pretty much sums up Maine.

.6% of household reported as same sex in the most recent batch of data — good for 150% of the national average.

Cities around Portland rank as the most liberal cities in Maine, so we imagine that’s where the majority of the gay population lives.

3. Hawaii


Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 455,502
Percent Gay: 0.48%

Floating out in the big gay ocean is Hawaii, the 3rd gayest state.

Looking for some gay things to do in Hawaii? Check out some of the great hotels, restaurants, and clubs.

So basically just stuff everyone does in Hawaii.

4. Arizona


Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 2,482,311
Percent Gay: 0.48%

One of the biggest states not named California in the top ten gayest is Arizona where .48% of households are gay.

Aptly named Carefree ranks as the gayest in Arizona with 2.81% of households (Out of only 1,850) are gay.

5. Delaware


Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 352,357
Percent Gay: 0.46%

The smallest state to appear in the top ten is Delaware.

Delware is one of the few states in the top ten with more male-male households than female-female households.

We have Milton clocked in as the gayest in the First State.

6. New Mexico

New Mexico

Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 770,435
Percent Gay: 0.46%

Things can get pretty hot and sweaty and gay out in the desert, which makes New Mexico a gay destination apparently

There are some 4,000 gay households here out of 750k, good for a number in the ~.46% range.

The gayest place in New Mexico is Grants for those playing at home.

7. Colorado


Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 2,082,531
Percent Gay: 0.46%

The next stop on our list takes us right next door to Colorado.

Another state to have over .46% of its households report as same-sex.

Interestingly, Colorado isn’t in the gayest city in the state which is dominated by smaller sized Colorado suburbs.

8. Rhode Island

Rhode Island

Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 412,028
Percent Gay: 0.45%

Still on the coast is the eighth most LGBT friendly state in the country — Rhode Island.

.45% of the population reported as gay in Little Rhody — what a cute nickname, btws.

Woonsocket seems to be the center of the gay population, while Providence clocks in towards the top also.

9. Nevada


Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 1,052,249
Percent Gay: 0.44%

Criss the crossing the country for number 5, we end up in Nevada.

Home to Las Vegas, Reno, and about half a percent of gay households. One of Nevada’s gayest towns is Ely.

Ely has, to go with its over .49% of gay households, two country clubs, a hospital, a school featuring Greek architecture and an airport. So pretty gay 🙂

10. California


Source: Wikipedia

Total Households: 12,888,128
Percent Gay: 0.44%

We have finally arrived at what everyone assumed would be number one on the list — California.

While San Francisco is the gay beacon in America, California is ginormous with many parts not being as gay as SF.

With that said, California would have to be in the running for the most LGBT friendly place to live.

So There Are Your LGBT Friendly States For 2019

Maine can take pride in its ranking this year as the gayest state in the US.

If you’re thinking of trying to move to gay community, then stick to a coast.

But, if that isn’t in the cards, there’s always a big city close by with a gayborhood or two that’ll welcome you in.

Here’s a quick look at the least Gay states on the list:

  1. Wyoming
  2. Mississippi
  3. South Dakota

For more reading, check out:

Detailed List Of The Gayest States In America For 2019

Rank State % Gay
1 Oregon 0.492%
2 Maine 0.487%
3 Hawaii 0.479%
4 Arizona 0.477%
5 Delaware 0.463%
6 New Mexico 0.461%
7 Colorado 0.458%
8 Rhode Island 0.45%
9 Nevada 0.442%
10 California 0.437%
11 Florida 0.425%
12 Vermont 0.42%
13 Massachusetts 0.398%
14 New York 0.397%
15 Washington 0.386%
16 Georgia 0.377%
17 Texas 0.368%
18 Alaska 0.35%
19 Ohio 0.348%
20 Indiana 0.331%
21 Minnesota 0.324%
22 Missouri 0.324%
23 North Carolina 0.321%
24 Virginia 0.321%
25 Illinois 0.316%
26 Pennsylvania 0.313%
27 Tennessee 0.312%
28 New Jersey 0.311%
29 Kentucky 0.311%
30 Louisiana 0.31%
31 Wisconsin 0.309%
32 New Hampshire 0.307%
33 Maryland 0.306%
34 Michigan 0.302%
35 Utah 0.289%
36 Connecticut 0.286%
37 Oklahoma 0.275%
38 West Virginia 0.265%
39 South Carolina 0.261%
40 Kansas 0.246%
41 Idaho 0.246%
42 Arkansas 0.244%
43 Nebraska 0.228%
44 Alabama 0.211%
45 Iowa 0.209%
46 Montana 0.206%
47 North Dakota 0.199%
48 South Dakota 0.187%
49 Mississippi 0.183%
50 Wyoming 0.167%

About Chris Kolmar

Chris Kolmar has been in the real estate business for almost ten years now. He originally worked for Movoto Real Estate as the director of marketing before founding HomeSnacks.

He believes the key to finding the right place to live comes down to looking at the data, reading about things to do, and, most importantly, checking it out yourself before you move.

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2 thoughts on “Gayest States In America

  1. This is perhaps the most idiotic report I’ve ever seen. Male to male unmarried in same house? What about married gays? What about the millions and millions of single gays. Were your studies anonymous?

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